ROB'S STORY

The year was 2016, and I was hitting rock bottom after a corporate restructuring left me without a job following 30 years of continuous employment and a move to Austin Texas was a bigger transition than I imagined.  All of this change caused some deep wounds to open, wounds that I had suppressed for years as I played the role of provider for my family, ignoring all the signs that things were not ok.  I was playing the game of keeping the beach ball below the water.  Every once in a while I would lose control and it would explode skyward.  A fun game to play as a kid.  As an adult it showed up as anger, frustration, fear, resentment, comparison and other unpleasant behaviors.  It was affecting my entire life, personally and professionally.

I would find employment toward the end of 2016, but my love for my career was starting to fade.  I would go through the motions but work did not fill me up like it did in the past.  As I unpacked these feelings and emotions, I found that almost all of my joy and happiness was external to myself, out of my control.  This had to change since someone else's bad day became mine, a deal gone bad at work ruined a weekend.  I was blaming others for what was happening to me.  The outer world that I relied on so much for my joy and happiness was crumbling around me.  I was depressed, anxious, unhappy, despondent.  I would have short periods that I would see a different future. I believed that it was possible.

I found a coach and then a mastermind group, then another coach.  I read books.  Lots of books.  I listened to podcasts.  Went to seminars.  Got certified.  I implemented different tools and techniques.  I started to unpack all that I stood for and disposed of the behaviors that did not serve me and kept the ones that did.  It took time.  Slowly, my world started to change and I found inner joy, gratitude, happiness and love.  It was not perfect, the short periods of hope became longer.

My corporate career was stagnant.  I could not understand why this was happening.  As I had done in the past, I kept pushing and persevering to keep my career alife.  It was a huge energy suck with little financial or personal reward.  It was as if a power larger than me was sending me a message.  I was so in my head that all I heard was to keep pushing, something that I had done in the past that had paid off.  But this time it was exhausting.  My personal life was improving from all the work I had done but my career was not.

In 2019, I experienced plant medicine for the first time.  It was an intentional experience.  I found a quiet that I never knew existed.  It was 5 years of coaching in an evening.  A map was created that allowed me to find this quiet outside of a retreat.  It changed me.  In early 2020, I invited my wife to join me and we attended together.  Later in 2020 our son and then our entire family experienced this work.  Every experience built on the last, more healing, more maps.

As time went on, Leslye and I healed ourselves first and then our marriage.  Our relationship with our children is the strongest it has ever been due to all the love we share, the healing we have done and the common language we have created.

More training, coaching and experiences created the map for our company, The Transformation Hub.  Started in early 2022, Leslye and I have taken what we have learned and are now sharing this with our clients in both group and individual retreats and coaching.  Initially focusing on baby boomers and late gen xers, we have found that our tribe includes all age groups from young adults to elders.  Come warm your hands by the fire and join our community.